Forgiveness has got to be one of the hardest things to do, but it is the sweetest thing to receive. So many of us hold onto anger, hurt, and resentment and won’t take that step to forgive others and/or ourselves. Perhaps it is a hurt from a relationship or anger directed inwardly due to not being “good.” I know that for me personally it took me quite a few years to even begin to understand the power of forgiveness. You can change your whole day, life, and even your mindset. Plus, it has the bonus effect of changing others. Forgive yourself for eating a doughnut or two when you know you shouldn’t have. Forgive your spouse/significant other for some wrong he or she did to you. Forgive yourself for beating You up about not cooking dinner every night or not having all the laundry taken care of. Without forgiveness, we are in a holding pattern. We’re not really going backwards but also not really going forward. We’re just marinating in our own hurt. I don’t know about you, but I don’t like when things marinate too long. The flavor is overwhelming! It’s time to move on. I don’t want to be overwhelmed by my own hurt. I want to move forward with the people I love and loving myself. Forgiving others and myself. So I’m going to do the silly thing that self-help books say to do…tell yourself “Good job!” or “You look fab today!” I tell students that all the time. “Pat yourself on the back for trying your best.” When I look in the mirror before bed tonight, I think I’ll go with “You’re doing alright, Natalie.” Maybe I’ll even give myself a pat on the back.
What do you do to encourage others or yourself?